A Quick Coping with Chronic Illness Quiz
Question 1.
You have had a busy week, worked hard and kept up with life’s requirements and responsibilities. It is Saturday and your family is all out for the day, you are home alone. Do you:
a) Sleep in bed all day and have a shower just before anyone comes home
b) Write a list of all the jobs you need to do around the home and get as many done as possible
c) Get dressed in your favourite jeans and top and head to the local shopping centre for a days shopping, coffee and the beginnings of painful feet
d) Spend the day reading, sipping cool drinks and enjoying the peace and quiet
Question 2.
You have your bags and you are heading home after a busy day at work. Your body is telling you to sit down and your feet are starting to shuffle. A co-worker sees you walking past and calls out in a panic for your help with a cut and paste disaster on a Word document. Do you:
a) Tell them they will work it out, otherwise to redo it, and keep walking
b) Tell them that they will have to find someone else, that you’re leaving
c) Go over and manually help fix the document
d) Tell them the name of someone else who is good at that sort of thing
Question 3.
Christmas Day is approaching and your family, who live in another state, has been asking about whether you will be flying to be with them on Christmas Day. You haven’t been well and you have a long holiday trip planned for after Christmas, which you haven’t really saved properly for. Do you:
a) Tell them you are coming and then find the cheapest flights available
b) Tell them that your health has been bad and that you need to rest before your trip
c) Tell them that it is just one day and that you will ring them, that will be sufficient
d) Invite them to come to your place instead, knowing that they will never do that
Answers
Question 1.
All of these answers are acceptable, it just comes down to which option makes you feel most happy. All options have flow on effects, especially mental ones, such as the satisfaction of getting jobs done around the home or the feeling of restfulness and centredness after spending a day relaxing with a book, so remember to consider this as well. What will you get out of the action v’s what do you need right now. It is important not to keep thinking over the other options all day with guilt that you didn’t choose them. Choose your option and enjoy.
Question 2.
The right thing to do here is c. This should be a quick fix to help someone and then you will be back on your way home. However, depending on how tired you are and how much pain you are in, the other options may slip out. Be careful to not let illness get in the way of you being the person you are without it. Checking your inner voice to make sure it isn’t driving negativity is very important and it can be hard to do that when in a lot of pain. If you do slip up, don’t forget you are human and you are in pain and sometimes you can’t be everything.
Question 3.
The problem with this question is that you probably want to jump on a plane and go be with your family for Christmas. However, life with illness means that you have to plan your energy use very carefully. Your body doesn’t care if it’s Christmas Day, your birthday, graduation day, the day you are presenting a proposal to your bosses, your children’s school concert day, the day you leave for a trip overseas, etc. Your body needs rest constantly, in order just to get through a normal day. Be very careful with planning big events and trips. Sometimes you will have to say no to some things in order to say yes to others. Don’t fight it, it is just the way you have to live with chronic illness.
Score
It doesn’t matter. Be kind to yourself.