Why do I put off the things I want to do most?
Like the best part of a meal, say the roast potatoes, why leave that to last?
Why do jobs around the house and start a uni assignment? I want to write. I want to make art. I didn’t get time today. I never get time.
My bucket list has all these travel destinations and activities on it. It’s nice to dream, but when will I ever get to go?
These are problems I am trying to rectify, except I think I am hard wired to dismiss what I want and what will probably make me happy to the bottom of the pile, where it will never be looked at again. There are also consequences to actions that have to be considered. I hate consequences.
Here are some strategies I am considering trying:
1. Flying by the seat of one’s pants
Worth trying sometimes, especially when out and about and things aren’t going so good, ramp up the being friendly with randoms vibe. You never know what may come out of your mouth or who you may attract. However, use with caution, especially at work. If you feel like you are dribbling crap to strangers or co-workers then pull away.
2. Letting whatever happens, happen
For someone who plans most of her life away, letting go is probably impossible. Sometimes just waiting for an opportunity to come your way sends you on a path you didn’t know was yours for the taking. Don’t forget that information always crops up which will help you cope here.
Again make sure that the situation is suitable for this and don’t risk your safety.
3. Doing the opposite of what you usually do
This works great if you are looking for adventure. It’s not a good strategy for work unless you have been stuffing up everything you touch. Remember that you got to where you are doing what you usually do. Is that a good thing or bad? If you say bad, then go for it!
4. Ignoring your credit card balance
This works well if you have a good income and debt will eventually work itself down. You can always justify spending, just think creatively.
This does not work well if you signed up for a credit card and you have zero chance of ever keeping up with repayments, eg. you are unemployed. An alternative is to sign up to some ridiculous deal where you have no repayments for 12 months, then you can buy stuff and return stuff and hock stuff at Cash Converters for a whole year before you need to worry about the balance. After the year is up, you’re screwed.
Think carefully about this strategy before trying.
5. Starting from scratch
Quit your job, sell/move house, convince your family to finally move out, and then start afresh. This works really well if your children are over 18 and capable of independence. This does not work so well if your children are still school aged. It is very cleansing to start again. Don’t forget to get rid of all your “stuff” as well so you start with nothing. One word of warning, be careful about what type of job and lifestyle you change to. Starting afresh as a meth lab chemist is not a smart choice.
6. Committing to something before you’ve worked out how you are actually going to do it
Ignore the feeling deep inside that this may be a very difficult or even impossible idea to achieve. Nothing is impossible. (Except maybe to see Michael Jackson in person, because he is now dead). Choose it and then make it happen.
This works well for travel ideas. Book a ticket, then worry about the details later.
7. Clearing a whole day for a hobby
How good does it feel to focus on one loved hobby for a whole day? I don’t know but I’d love to try. You may have to consider if you have children, you need to get rid of them for the day. I mean, encourage a play date for a day at someone else’s house, or call in Nanna or Pop or Aunty or Uncle. Remember that unless this hobby involves your phone or other technology, then hide it away and ignore it’s amazing loud vibrating sounds.
8. Having a makeover of body, soul, room, backyard, financials, or whatever is desperately tragic and really needs it
Choose one place or part of your life that needs a good shaking up. Activate makeover mode. Focus a shopping trip or an outing on finding things for this makeover and then make it happen. Or you could attend a short course on this with the view of changing it. Go hard, this thing is currently total rubbish so you have to make some brutal changes.
Be careful that you don’t just act on a fleeting manic idea here. Blue hair looks fun for a day or two, but it’s not a good look for job interviews. Be brutal but be smart as well, do some research.
What is it that you want to do?
How about you do it?
And I mean TODAY.